Re: starting over at 12 months
Welcome to the forum!
My first question is this: how can anyone force you to use birth control? Isn't that illegal?
If you want to relactate you certainly can. All that is required is effort- which may be significant. Use a good double electric pump, preferably a hospital-grade rental, with properly sized shields, and try to pump at least 8x per day, including at least 1x overnight. Do not expect an immediate return of milk supply. You may need to work hard for many weeks before seeing evidence of milk, and many weeks more before you get significant quantities of milk.
Weaning is vary variable. Some women choose to wean after a few days, or weeks, or months. Others continue to nurse for years, allowing their children to set the date for their own weaning. Left to their own devices, most children do not self-wean until age 2, at least, and many will nurse until age 3-5 years.
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