Re: A bunch of issues
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby and on making it through a very difficult beginning with her!
Based on what you've posted, I think there's an excellent chance that you could wean off the supplemental bottles rather quickly and exclusively nurse. The fact that you feel engorged at night and can pump 3 oz after the morning feeding points to you being able to produce plenty of milk, which is great!
Feeling like your supply varies over the course of the day is totally normal. Most moms feel like their supply is highest in the morning and the wee hours of the night, and falls as the day progresses. This often leads a mom to feel that her baby needs more and larger supplemental bottles as the day goes on. What is important to remember is that less milk is not no milk, and that it is not necessary for you to feel full in order for you to have sufficient milk. An empty-feeling breast will still deliver plenty of milk if the baby is nursing well.
If this were me, here's what I would do:
1. See a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, for some hands on help.
2. Pump after feedings with a high quality electric pump. When you can pump enough to fill all the baby's supplemental bottles, you know you have enough milk to transition to exclusive nursing.
3. Phase out the bottles. Decrease the amount that you are offering in the bottles by 1/2 an oz, wait a few days, and then decrease by another 1/2 oz, etc. As the amount in the bottles comes down, the amount the baby takes by breast should be going up.
4. As you phase out the bottles, watch the baby's diaper output really carefully. Inadequate intake will show up in her diaper output first. As long as her diaper output is normal, she is getting enough to eat even if she is acting really fussy.
5. Nurse as much as possible. If baby seems frustrated, give her a little break from nursing and then try again. The best way for her to learn to nurse well is for her to practice all the time!
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