hello, I am new to this board, desperate for ideas because I want to quit so bad. We have been having issues from day 1 and I feel like at 9 weeks things should be getting better, but they have not. We have struggled with every challenge imaginable. Overactive letdown, tongue tie, lip tie, shallow latch, reflux, torticollis, and on top of that a huge case of colic. I've seen the LC several times. She has me on a nipple shield for OALD which helped with his choking problems, but he still has a shallow latch and nursing is painful, which I didn't even know was possible with a nipple shield. He also now refuses to nurse without it. We have had his tongue and lip tie corrected, been to a craniosacral therapist twice, PT for torticollis, Zantac for reflux, nothing has helped. LC wants him to try occupational oral therapy to see if it helps, but I don't know how much more I can put him through.
Our current routine involves a poor latch on the nipple shield, pain for me, him clicking and slurping throughout this feed, with milk dripping out of his mouth all over me, and then coming unlatched and crying, not eating enough which leads to frequent nursing, me screaming into pillows out of frustration, and overall misery for both of us. Even with his corrected lip tie his top lip doesn't flare out even if I try to manually flip it, and his tongue doesn't do the full wave that it's supposed to which I think is why he clicks and breaks suction so much.
What am I missing? I've tried everything, I feel like we are just not meant to breastfeed. As much as I am against switching to formula, I feel like it'd make both of our lives so much easier. I attend a breastfeeding support group and I feel like I'm the only one who has so many issues and misery at 9 weeks, everyone else has worked out their problems. I so badly wanted this to work but I'm out of ideas/patience/hope.