Re: tired vs hungry questions
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby!
Forget the Oprah clip. You don't need to buy what the woman in the clip was selling. Maybe there is some genius out there who can reliably decipher the difference between a baby's hunger cry and his tired cry or his "I need to poop" cry. I put the likelihood of that ability existing up there with the likelihood of there being space aliens and Bigfoot.
One reason why I don't think anyone can truly tell the difference is that breastfed babies rarely want just one thing. A hungry baby cries for food- that one's obvious. But a tired baby cries not just for sleep but for mom to comfort him to sleep with the breast, because that is the most effective way of getting to sleep. The breast is the solution to pretty much all mothering challenges, at least with a young infant. And there is nothing- NOTHING!- wrong with that. Nursing on demand does not build "bad habits". Texting while driving, picking your nose- those are bad habits. Nursing is not. It's merely the most natural way for a baby to meet all his needs- for food, for comfort, for warmth, for reassurance, for closeness with mom.
This stage of life won't last forever. When your baby is older, you will naturally discover new and different ways to meet his needs, and he will develop ways of soothing himself that don't include the breast. There's no need to hurry those changes along, and trying to do so will probably make both you and your baby miserable. You will feel driven to respond to his cries, and he won't understand why you won't.
In short, don't let some lady from the TV convince you that your instincts are wrong. Because they're not. You're doing just right- and the proof is in the pudding. No letdown issues, baby's gaining weight, supply is good- that didn't happen by accident!
Last edited by @llli*mommal; May 2nd, 2014 at 07:34 PM.
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