Hi, thanks for reading/responding. I am in the midst of weaning my nearly 19 month old son. I am trying to be as gentle as possible and over the past couple of months had been successful at eliminating his normal first thing in the morning nurse and his after work nurse - he was only nursing once a day (just before bed), and for the most part was okay with it. He mostly sleeps through the night and very rarely nurses during the night (my husband handles night wakings).
However, my husband hurt his back a couple of weeks ago, and then re aggravated it on the weekend, and it's been a big change in our life, as he can no longer take our son at night, and is no longer as available for other things, as he cannot lift him at all.
Possibly as a consequence (?), my son is now waking multiple times at night, demanding vociferously to nurse (he says nurse, points at his chair, and starts to yell no and thrash about if I try to distract him with other comforts such as holding him in his carrier, or reading to him).
I need help/ideas on how to cope with this. I'm not sure how long until my husband will be back on his feet. I often give in to my son when he demands to nurse repeatedly, but it feels like I'm sending him confusing messages, since we had worked hard on the idea of him nursing just before bed until now. But he is so visibly upset, so forceful in his desire to nurse, it feels mean to deny him. If I do nurse him, he calms rapidly, and often will fall back asleep.
But I would like to get back to where we were - am I being too confusing by allowing him to nurse when he is so upset? Are there other tools I'm missing? Any ideas on how to deal with this would be super appreciated.