Hi, many of you "know" me as I've posted here multiple times before. My DS is almost 2.5 and for the past several weeks, has really been ramping up his requests for nu-nu (what we call nursing). This confuses me. We had been down to around 3-4 times a day. Now suddenly he wants to nurse multiple times in the morning before work, and usually several times in the evening as well. He asks less often if we're out and about or if Daddy is around, but if it's just the two of us nursing seems to be his favorite activity. I asked him today why he wanted so much nu-nu and he said "because I miss you, Mama!". I don't know if I planted that idea in his head...I asked one time a few weeks ago after a period where I'd been working a lot if he wanted nu-nu because he missed me and maybe he caught onto that and it stuck? Or maybe that really is the reason. I don't know. I don't feel like I've been away from home an unusual amount the last week or two but we did have visitors in town and have been busy with Passover, etc. so maybe he's not getting as much one-on-one time as he usually does.
I'm just somewhat confused and a little bit bothered by the fact that we seem to be going BACKWARDS with regard to nursing. I had thought he'd be well along in the weaning process by now. I am willing to continue nursing awhile longer but I don't know if nursing all the time is good for him at this point. His father thinks he should be weaned already (although he is tolerating our nursing without any comments).
I guess I am unclear if I should be going along with these requests, trying to distract him, or what? I am not really thrilled about having a 2.5 year old who seems to want to nurse as often as he did as an infant. His behavior in general has been difficult lately--he's been resistant to direction, not listening well, and so we're having more conflict--so maybe this is somehow related.
I can "go with the flow" a little while longer if it's developmental or really is related to him missing me. I am quitting my job and will be starting a new, part-time job (2 or 3 days a week) in about 6 weeks, so things will improve and I will be home a lot more then. I am hoping that once I'm home more these constant requests for nu-nu every time he sees me will decrease. He really won't let me out of his sight these days. I feel bad that he seems to be struggling for some reason but I also don't know if the best way to handle this is to allow him to regress to a more "babyish" stage or if I should be encouraging him to be a "big boy". Maybe my little birdie needs a bit of a nudge from the nest? He doesn't seem to be giving it up on his own. Or maybe it's a 2 steps forward, one step back kind of thing.
I would still appreciate any advice from moms who may have dealt with something similar. I'm confused how to deal with this. Right now I've been mostly letting him nurse when he wants but I'm not sure if it's the right way to handle things, especially as I am hoping he'll wean in the next 6-12 months. I want to meet his needs for security, but I wonder if maybe he needs a little nudge to act more like a big boy. He seems to be resisting being a "big boy" in all kinds of ways, including absolutely no interest in potty training.