Re: 2.5 year old wanting to nurse ALL THE TIME?
I am sure that he does have something emotional going on when he wants to nurse more than usual. Distress might be too strong a word for it. You say that he's been distracted and resistant to direction- that's normal for a 2 year-old. Especially when holidays and general changes to routine are in the mix.
I think what really bothers me about this behavior is I feel like maybe it's DS' way of showing he's in some emotional distress about something. If that's the case I want to help him with whatever is bothering him.
We all have to find our way through the terrible twos. The nice thing about nursing is that it usually works better than any other other technique, when it comes to resolving these normal frustrations. It sounds to me like your major issue is that you think you shouldn't be using nursing in this way- that somehow it's wrong to do so? Developmentally unhealthy? If that's what you're worried about, then maybe it would help to examine where that idea comes from. It's not something that emerged from research. It's a purely cultural bias.
This is a nice article, originally published in Mothering Magazine, about how different the cultural lens can be, when it comes to breastfeeding and to using nursing as conflict resolution: http://www.incultureparent.com/2011/...-genghis-khan/
Add my to the idea that weaning is a non-linear process. My kids gave me upticks in nursing frequency, but the overall trend was down.
But, it seems you and KatiePerry are saying that weaning is not linear and that toddlers just act like this sometimes, for no particular reason
I totally understand why you feel so pressured to be done with nursing. Your DH is actively against you nursing at this point and it sounds like you don't get support from family and friends. It can't be easy to continue on when you are surrounded by that level of negativity. What you do about taboos sort of depends on what sort of person you are, I guess. Maybe on what sort of person you want to be. When confronted with a completely ridiculous cultural taboo, do you want to be the person who conforms to make other people more comfortable, or do you want to be the person who doesn't give a flying $&%# and blazes a different path? There are merits to both approaches!
There's also the fact that I feel like it's really taboo to still be nursing at this age and it will be even worse once he is 3. I'm not sure how much longer I can keep this going, due to others' judgements and expectations.
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