Re: 20 Month Old Still Requiring Milk to get back to sleep
What you do at this point is up to you. If you are happy- or at least okay- with nursing a few times a night, there is absolutely no harm in it and your child will eventually give it up.
You have in no way made a rod for your own back. People forget that it's totally normal for babies and young children to wake frequently at night, and to need adult help to resettle into sleep. Nursing just happens to be the fastest way to sooth a night-waking toddler back to sleep. And as the PP said, no need to mention your sleep situation to your family! If they are inquisitive types, it might help to put a big smile on and say "We're sleeping great, thanks for asking! Oh, you want details? Well, I just don't remember. Funny how that works, when you wake up well-rested." That way you won't be opening yourself up to criticism. If you need support, you can always come here!
As the PP suggested, communication works wonders, so if you do decide to take a mother-led approach to night-weaning, make that part of the program.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"