Re: giving tray of food vs one bite at a time
Can you clarify what your concern is? Unless I'm misunderstanding the situation, this is probably not a battle I'd choose to fight. If they are allowing him to feed himself and not controlling how much goes into his mouth, I think it's okay to put less on his tray at a time to avoid messes. It's a different situation feeding several kiddos at once than just one so I can understand why they might need to have *some* room to do what works for them. I don't think it's going to harm your child in any way or derail your BLW process so unless it's just something you feel super strongly about, I wouldn't make an issue of it.
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