Re: looking for the perfect breastfeeding relationship
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Unfortunately, there's no magic solution to sleep problems. But here are some things to try:
- Have someone else handle nighttime wake-ups. For example, daddy can go in and give back rubs and cuddles until baby falls asleep- she's not going to want to nurse from him!
- Communicate. Explain to your LO that "When the sun goes down, baby is going to sleep, mommy is going to sleep, and (insert your nursing word here) is going to sleep. In the morning, everyone will wake up and then she can nurse." Even toddlers who are not yet particularly verbal can get the gist of this concept if it is repeated often enough. In the morning, reinforce the lesson: "The sun is up! Sleep time is over and it's time to nurse!"
- Keep a sippy cup full of water available for nighttime wake-ups. Night waking toddlers are sometimes genuinely thirsty.
- If you decide to night-wean, don't vacillate. Make your decision and stick with it. Going back and forth- some nights giving in, some nights not- just confuses your LO and teaches here that if she kicks up enough fuss, you might give in.
- Make sure her teeth aren't bothering her. If her 1 year molars or canines are still coming in, that could explain a lot of night-waking, and you might want to wait until those teeth are in before doing anything.
- If you decide to night-wean, remember that some crying is probably inevitable. Dedicated night nursers don't give in without a fight! But if you are right there with your child, offering her comfort in some form, you are still being a loving and responsive nighttime parent. You do not have to give in to crying- but you also shouldn't just shut the door and leave.
Who is pressuring you to wean, and why?
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