Re: Pain is overbearing!! Cant take it...I just want to quit
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! I am so sorry that breastfeeding has been so hard for you so far. It's great that your caregivers are so supportive of nursing that they are encouraging you not to quit, but they should be taking your pain a lot more seriously. You are correct that breastfeeding should not be so painful that you're ready to quit. So I'm going to ask you a while bunch of questions, and hopefully the answers will help us figure out what is going wrong and how to fix it.
1. When do you have the most pain- when baby first latches on, throughout the feeding, at the end of the feeding, or after the feeding is over?
2. When your baby unlatches, what do your nipples look like? Are they symmetrical, like pencil erasers, or asymmetrical/wedged/ridged/creased/shaped like new lipsticks?
3. Do your nipple tips ever appear to blanch (turn white) before returning to a normal color? Do they ever appear bluish-purple?
4. In general, are your nipples more pink/red than normal?
5. Do you have any dry-looking or flaking skin in the nipple/areola region?
6. Do you have any cracks, and if so, is there one large single crack per nipple, or multiple small slit-like cracks?
7. How would you describe the pain you're in- more of a stabbing pain (like someone is pinching your nipple really hard) or more of a burning, itching, or raw/chapped/sunburn feeling?
8. Have you or your baby had a recent course of antibiotics, including for GBS at the time of birth, or following a c-section?
9. Have you had a recent vaginal yeast infection, or has the baby had either thrush (a yeast infection of the mouth) or a diaper yeast rash?
10. Has anyone checked baby for a tongue or lip tie, and if so, what did they find? Can the baby easily extend his tongue out over the lower gumline?
11. Are you frequently or constantly feeling full or engorged?
12. If you pump, how does pumping feel?
At this point, I would encourage you to do the following:
1. See your midwife, obstetrician, or family doctor. Based on the hot patches and aches, I am concerned that you have mastitis. If you do, you may need some antibiotics for that.
2. See a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC. Anyone who brushes you off with "Latch looks good, keep up the good work" and dismisses your pain is not doing her job.
3. Practice good breast hygeine- change nursing bras, towels, and shirts daily and wash them in hot water.
4. Stay hydrated, get lots of rest, and keep nursing. I know it's excruciating, but with suspected mastitis you do not want to wean even if you are 100% sure that's what you want to do. Continuing to remove milk from the breast is the best anti-mastitis treatment you can give yourself.
Hang in there!!!
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