I work three 12 hour shifts on 3rd shift. My husband stays home with our daughter at night while I work. At first it worked out just fine. She's 5 months old now and probably within the past month things have gotten a lot harder. She cries and cries for my husband in the evening, and he has a hard time getting her to fall asleep. On my days off we generally follow a nightly routine. Bath, nursing, story then bed. She still wakes frequently during the night but I see that as a way to keep my supply up since I don't get to nurse her as often on the days that I work.
I don't know if part of the problem is she's used to our routine and doesn't like not being able to nurse before bed. I mean he gives her a bottle. I also don't think he tries very hard to stick to the same routine that we always do. He has a preconceived idea that she should be sleeping through the night by now too. Everyone gives us their opinions but it's usually things like I spoil her by holding her too much, I shouldn't let her fall asleep nursing, we should let her cry....etc etc
I know it would be a lot better if I got to be home every night. I also would co-sleep if I was home every night. But there just aren't many other options for my job right now. Does anyone else have this same problem? I want this time to be as stress free for my husband and our little baby as possible. I just don't know what to do to help.