I have been nursing non stop for days with only the nights offering any rest...which I, btw, do appreciate, believe me. It seems kiddo regulated his sleeps automatically and sleeps long stretches at night - at least 3 hours, it would probably be longer but we haven't seen the pediatrician yet, so I'm still waking him for feeding intead of just letting him sleep until he wakes me.
My problem is during the day, it seems he only wants to feed, and feed, and feed. He never goes down for sleep. He seems happy though and has several alert moments where he looks around.
First feed of this morning was 15 mins on left, some burping, then 10 mins on right. He quietly unlatched himself both times, so I assume he felt content. I dressed him in his sleep sack and held him on my chest. A minute later he was rooting! But I'm so sore, so I gave him his pacifier. That settled him a bit but not long enough to sleep. He would doze, lose the paci and immediately start rooting again.
I put him in his crib with the pacifier and was totally expecting him to start whining as soon as the paci was out but nope, he sucked it for a bit, it fell out as he dozed and he actually continued sleeping. That was almost three hours ago. Per doctor's instructions I should wake him again just about now, so I guess I will do that, make sure he feeds "by the book" (one side for at least 15 mins and then offer the second... that is correct, right?) and then either put him down or let his dad hold him until next feed two hours later.
Is this horribly wrong and cruel? I know I'm suppose to feed at first sign of rooting, I know the paci is not "natural" and we're just tricking him to settle with it... But I am sooo tired of being suckled on
My nipples are bleeding and the initial pain when he latches is still there. I can take it because the rest of the feeding is painless but I can not take that sting several times in each and every hour. All. Through. The. Day.
I love this kid. I Would gladly hold him and cuddle him all day long but he won't let me unless I'm feeding him!
I know you can't train a baby but is there any way to help him realise that he can hang out with me without having to suckle? Or am I completely wrong in even wanting that?
I don't want to deprive him of what nature is telling him he needs and I know he is just following instinct... but I gotta admit I feel resentment that he only sees me as a source of food, while with his dad he can actually fall asleep or at least hang out on the paci for longer periods at a time without spitting it out and start obsessively rooting.
Maybe tomorrow I can go back to feeding on cue but today I just desperately need a break, so he's going to have to settle for the paci between me feeding him and I just hope that's not wrong.
Sorry this got so long. I'm just getting really emotional about this and it felt good to write it all down.
summary: Baby only wants to eat when with mommy, mommy is tired and wants to ignore feeding cues and only feed on a schedule (for today at least) and let dad hold the baby between feedings and keep him occupied with a paci if necessary, when daddy needs a break then simply put him down in pram or crib if that will work. Baby is one week old exactly. Pee and poop are above recommended quantity. No idea about weight as pediatric visit isn't until next week.