Re: Enjoying EBF, but I want my body back!
For me, the limitations that come with nursing a baby are bearable because babyhood is so short, and all the irritations pass quickly. Also, when I look back at my mothering journey, I want to be able to say "I did my best for my kids even when it came at a cost to me."
You're 3 months into breastfeeding, which means you are still in the most intense and demanding stages of your baby's life. But it won't always be like this! In another 3 months, you can introduce solids and that will start taking some of the pressure off of you to be your baby's sole food source. Your libido will come back and the vaginal dryness will pass with time- most moms get their libidos back and normal levels of lubrication by the time their fertility returns. Your breasts will go back to being "in the game" when it comes to intimacy with your partner.
Meanwhile, there are things you can do to improve these issues in your life! You can invest in a sexy bra and wear that when your breasts are feeling off-limits but you would still like them to provide a visual treat. If vaginal dryness is a problem, talk to your midwife or doctor- there are topical estrogen creams you can use to restore elasticity and lubrication (just be aware that they have the potential to impact milk supply). And if you want to have some time away from your baby, you can either pump and provide your milk in a bottle or supplement with formula. Breastfeeding doesn't have to be all or nothing, and even part-time breastfeeding helps moms and babies achieve normal health outcomes.
It's a myth that breastfeeding "requires" you to hold onto additional weight. In fact, breastfeeding mothers report a faster return to pre-baby weight than those who do not nurse- remember, nursing a baby burns about 300-500 calories per day! That's like an hour on the stair master, just from sitting on your butt and nursing! If you're having trouble losing weight, I suggest getting a copy of Eileen Behan's excellent book "Eat Well, Lose Weight, While Breastfeeding" and use that as a guide.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"