I'm hoping someone can help. My 20 month old (who I am home with) "nurses" about 3-4 times per day (morning, before/after nap, once in the later afternoon and at bedtime). I say "nurses" because for the past couple months despite my attempts to drink like a racehorse and eat as normal as possible it seems that my son only really gets a good nursing session in first thing in the morning. There are swallows here and there for his other sessions but I'm nervous that he is really only getting 1 good nursing in a day. So, my questions are:
1) I hadn't been giving him much cow's milk (he will eat an ok amount of cheese and occasionally yogurt) because I had read that he doesn't need it with other dairy if he is nursing 3-4 times a a day but now I am sure he really isn't getting enough mom's milk and that I should really be giving him cow's milk (which I am not opposed to, just didn't think he needed it). He was always a big boy but has barely gained any weight in almost a year. I know he is "slimming down" but the doc wanted to keep an eye on it after he had dropped quite a bit percentile wise at his 18 month appointment. He is growing taller just not much heavier. So - how much cow's milk should I give him? Should I be worried about his weight?
2) Is there anything I can do/should do to increase my milk at this stage? I had low milk supply from the start (it was unclear how low because my son had a tongue tie and bad latch) so I took fenugreek/blessed thistle but that caused him to gain a LOT of weight and I don't think we need/want to go back there. I also am not so interested in taking domperidone. However I also don't think that eating oatmeal or any of those things will really help. Should I go to these lengths to make sure he is getting a bit more milk while he is still nursing? I really wanted him to get more mommy milk than cow's milk even at this stage but now I'm really starting to worry about his weight and want to change something.
Thoughts? Sorry this was long! Hope it was clear.