Hello everyone. I already posted couple of weeks ago and got loads of help and support and to be honest I'm really hoping to get some suggestions this time as well.
My DD is 22 wo now and I think that she's bren going through that famous "4months old sleep regression". She's never been great sleeper and at this point I don't even dream about sleeping through the night (however know it's gonna happen some day eventually). She managed to sleep for more than 2h just couple of times usually she's up every 2h on good night. Her bedtime is loose and usually falls between 7pm and 8pm and she wakes up around 7-8am.
Recently she's fighting sleep like if her life depends on it. I nurse her to sleep and 90% of time she'll fight it regardless whether is nap or bedtime or even at night. I feel that she's constantly tired and I think that because of that she started fussing in Ergo and buggy as the motion makes her sleepy. But at the same time if she falls asleep (eg is her naptime) she will not sleep for more than 40min. For past few days she's been waking up around 5-6am and refusing to sleep again.
She's also been teething and last week already cut her second tooth so I guess it plays role as well.
Few nights ago in the evening she fell asleep on me. She was sitting kind of leaning against my belly and then I saw that her eyes just started closing. No nursing, no rocking she just probably couldn't fight tiredness anymore. She has NEVER feel asleep like that.
Another thing is that her latch is quite bad recently. Not to the point that it would hurt me but her lips are not curled outward anymore and she's losing the sucktion very easily. I also hear air being forced to her tummy (not sure due to bad latch or some overproduction/ OL) I guess that all can be due to teething but will she develop better latch or it will stay flimsy because of teeth?
What am I supposed to do? How to help myself and my LO? Sometimes I'm at my wits ends as I feel I'm constantly fighting with her. Feel like I'm forcing her to be in the carrier or buggy, forcing her to nurse or to sleep when she's not tired.
There was 2 quiet days last week but apart from that it's constant moaning, fussing, grunting and all those noises. And the way I see it is just getting worse and worse. And like if all thay struggle is not enough she started biting me today.
I really do not know what to do. I hold her when she sleeps so I have not much time on my own. DH will take her for little here and there so I can take shower, eat peacefully or generally get few minutes rest but I still feel like my DD's slave. I try to give her everything sacrificing myself and she still doesn't seem to be satisfied. I got to the point that recently I let her fuss for couple of minutes otherwise I wouldn't eat do anything around the house etc. And babywearing doesn't help at this point. I'm really afraid that one day I'll be so fed up with it that I'll let her CIO. Even though I'm 100% against it.
Please give me some suggestions as I feel I'm really breaking apart. I can't plan anything as she's so unpredictable and honestly I thought at this age she would develop some kind of routine of her own which she did for a while but then it all fell apart. She also stopped pooing at night quite while ago but for the past week or so she will do one or even two at night which is not a big deal really but at this point the last thing I want is waking my LO at night for a nappy change. I feel like I'm going backwards and Tbh seems like there was way less "troubles" with her when she was newborn (which I always had the impression that the first few weeks are relatively difficult and then it all settles)