My DD is almost 18 months old. She nurses at 3 very predictable times: first thing in the AM (not all days but some), ALWAYS before bed, and ALMOST ALWAYS first thing when I come home from work. Now that she's VERY verbal, she also requests it by name (She says, "ninny please? OK!"). It's very cute but sometimes, she will make requests at more "unpredictable" times. At these times, she doesn't always seem to "need" ninny, either for food or for comfort. A lot of times it seems to be out of boredom or just b/c she associates time with me with nursing. Sometimes I can distract her by offering her a different snack or reading a book/playing with a toy. Sometimes we're in the middle of a store or with a group of people and when she requests and I say "wait a minute" or "not right now", she'll get upset. I also notice that (understandably) she requests to nurse more often when we are out of town with family or in more unfamiliar environments. I usually accommodate her in those situations b/c I know it's for comfort as well.
I guess my question is, with all this in mind (her age, the fact that she's verbally requesting, and the fact that she typically only nurses regularly a couple times a day), when do you "nurse on command/request" (even if it's not for hunger) and when do you say "not right now" at this point in the weaning process?
BTW, if it makes any difference or has an impact, we have also night-weaned within the last 2 months such that if she wakes up at night, we don't nurse (just comfort her back to sleep).
I'd be interested in what "experts" have said (i.e. nursing books) as well as folks opinions.