Hello! My son is 11 weeks old and we have made a lot of progress with breastfeeding. We've had a lot of problems with it since he was born, but about two weeks ago we finally got him latching well (his latch his still shallow but he'll actually stay latched on).
To give a quick history, in case that helps at all, I was using a nipple shield for the first 6 weeks. The LC at the hospital told me I had flat nipples (I really don't) and had to use one, which he got used to. I would pump once a day so my husband could feed him once at night. At 6 weeks we stopped using the nipple shield but he was still having some problems staying latched on. That same week there were two days where we were visiting family and I had to pump several times because he's always taken a very long time to nurse and it was too hard for me to do with a cover. The pumping caused an oversupply and we had a rough few days and some green poo. By 8 weeks of exclusively nursing and no pumping, things seemed to have regulated. I still have a fast flow and he never likes taking the let downs. My LC, after making a comment that my flow is too fast for him, has stopped responding to my attempts to set up another appointment. Then I started back to work at 9 weeks...
I work from home and was planning on nursing while at my computer (my husband is doing school online and watching our son during the day), but again with the long feeding and latching problems he would take too long to nurse and it needed too much attention for me to work. After a few days of not getting any work done I decided to give in and pump. Being scared of messing up my supply again I've only been pumping one side at a time (he's been eating this way since our first oversupply issue), and pumping every two hours for 10-15 min. At week 10 we figured out the boppy was a bad position for him and I stopped using any sort of nursing pillow, and his latch got MUCH better! Now he only has problems latching when my breasts are really fully. He still eats slow and I have to burp him a LOT, so I still can't feed him while working. Within the last several days he's started to sleep longer and only wakes up once a night instead of twice. In the morning, when I would usually feed him before work, my breast that I need to feed him from is engorged. He has a very hard time latching and doesn't eat much and spits up a lot. At night, he's always eaten a ton, he's started acting CRAZY. At this point my breasts are pretty soft and we usually feed on both sides because he eats so much. What he's started doing is eating, burping, eating, burping, then he'll start squirming really bad when I'm trying to burp him and start looking around all over the place. I'll put him back down to nurse and he cries, but then he'll latch on. Once he's latched on he shakes his head with my nipple in his mouth, pulls on it, kicks his legs real hard, and when he loses the latch he squawks at my until I latch him back on where he continues to act crazy. He does this until he passes out. Then, the last two days, both early morning and morning feeding, he'll latch on, eat for several minutes, come off to burp, and then refuses to eat anymore. Since he usually takes a long time to eat I feel like he's definitely not getting enough. He did this this morning and would actually cry when I offered him my breast again. He ended up falling asleep, only to wake up an hour later crying and hungry. My husband has fed him 4 ounces since then.
I'm soooo confused!!! I don't know if the pumping is causing a supply issue again? Is it too much in the morning, too little at night? Too much all the time and he's just refusing to eat from me? Prefers the bottle over me? I only nurse him during the weekends, so I guess we'll see how things go (I'm posting this on friday). I'm just feeling very defeated. I don't have any other option than to pump, but it seems like that's what is causing this crazy behavior. Does anyone have any advice or ideas as to what's going on?