I am new to this forum. In fact, I just started actively reading the posts here 2 days ago. I was so inspired by your success stories that I was going to try to breastfeed my son exclusively.
Let me give you some background info. When my son was 2 days old, he started showing signs that he needed more milk than I could produce. The hospital suggested that I supplemented with formula to tide us over till my milk came in.
When I got back home, I had a nanny help look after us for a month. She immediately suggested buying a can of formula which I did. So for the first few weeks, although I tried nursing my son, it would take over an hour and afterward he would still cry in hunger. Then the nanny would suggest topping him up with formula. At 6 days old, I asked an LC for help as I felt I wasn't producing enough milk. She taught us to cup feed him and told us that she was concerned he wasn't gaining his birth weight and was showing signs he wasn't feeding enough. At about 10 days old, the LC allowed us to feed him with the bottle. We continued feeding him this way, 60ml EBM followed by 20-30ml formula.
When he was about 2-3 weeks old, he would latch on but scream after a few minutes at the breast. I suspected I either had too forceful a let down or he wasn't getting enough milk so I made the decision to solely express milk so that he could be bottle fed. That way, I could see how much milk he was taking in. I thought I would be able to continue to BF him more once he got older and was able to take the strong let down. However, I would still latch him on once every day or every two days and he would suckle fine. However after 5-10 mins he would pull off and not want to take anymore, only to start crying about 30mins to an hour later. So again, I resorted to the bottle to ensure he had enough.
This went on for a few more weeks and I was almost content having him drink EBM from the bottle and having a few nursing sessions here and there. However, 2 days ago, I chanced upon this forum and had a renewed sense of zest. I wanted to BF him more often, even exclusively, forgoing the pump.
However, tragedy struck this morning. He totally refused the breast. He cried and screamed and absolutely refused the breast. He would take my breast in for a while, lick the nipple for a bit and then spit it out and then cry and scream. I gave up and bottle fed him.
I just tried again and he again threw a fit and rejected it again. I held him there for a while and didn't let him struggle and he suckled for about 10 minutes after that he pulled off and refused to take it again. After struggling with him for another 10 mins or so, I relented and gave him the bottle. He seemed to refused it for a while but then took it in fine after.
I should have seen the warning signs though. For a while now, each time he was on the breast, he would suckle for 5-10 minutes and then he would arch his back and then pull on the nipple and then pull off. He seemed to root again and look for it again, but would pull off again and again. I didn't know what that meant - either he had enough / couldn't get enough / or was having tummy pains (he had reflux issues and is on Zantac).
What can I do now ? Can I still salvage the situation ? I don't need him to BF exclusively but I need him to still nurse at least once or twice a day. This feeling is really terrible, being rejected by your own son. Please help !