My DS is nearly 27 months, and we're still nursing, which is fine with me. However, our family and a lot of other people think he's far too old to be nursing, so I'd prefer not to advertise the fact that we still do. My DS, being 2, naturally feels no self-consciousness whatsoever about asking to nurse wherever, whenever, in front of anybody. We're about to start him in preschool and last week we went for a visit with him so we could see how he reacted and if he liked it. He did great for about two hours with me and DH sitting in the corner of the room. He was coming over to us occasionally but mostly playing around the other kids and teachers. Then, it was time to come inside when he wanted to stay outside, and he kind of lost it. Requests for "go outside, Mama!" rapidly turned into requests for "Nu-nu, Mama!" (Nu-nu is what he calls nursing). DH and I explained to the teacher what was going on, and you could tell she thought it was strange that he's still nursing at this age. DS can be very persistent about what he wants, so for the next 15-20 minutes it was escalating requests for "nu-nu, Mama!" met with tears and more crying for nu-nu when I told him we'd have nu-nu at home. I wasn't about to nurse him in the middle of the preschool classroom, with his teachers and the other parents watching. I'm fine with him still nursing but I'm no longer comfortable doing it in public at this age. I think he's old enough to accept some limits, and we really haven't nursed in public at all in at least 6 months, so I thought he understood that it was something we only do at home now. Anyway this tantrum for nu-nu on the day we met his preschool teachers was embarrassing for me, and even more so for DH, who snapped at me right in front of other parents that it was "time to wean". Well, I don't have any intention of taking this away from my son yet, and I hope to let him self-wean, but I would love to avoid these embarrassing situations in public. I get that the first day in preschool was very overwhelming for DS and he just wanted comfort in his favorite form, but I was still highly embarrassed and am now worried what his teachers and the other parents think of us. Something similar happens any time we travel to visit either set of grandparents; he becomes a nurse-aholic, wanting to nurse non-stop for comfort because he's stressed and not in his familiar environment. This is also embarrassing since my in-laws already think it's nuts that I'm still nursing him and that I need to cut the cord. At home, when he isn't sick or teething or feeling insecure, he nurses usually 3-6times per day, but if he's sick or in pain or feeling insecure he wants it non-stop. This embarrassment of DS wanting to nurse non-stop in front of others is now causing my DH to push for total weaning (although he knows it's my decision and that that ain't gonna happen). I think if I could get DS to stop asking SO MUCH and so persistently in new or scary situations, DH would get off my back about the whole thing, as he doesn't seem to mind me nursing at home when it's just the three of us (and in fact sometimes encourages nu-nu when it aligns with what he wants, such as not having to get out of bed yet in the morning). It would also be really nice for me not to be embarrassed by these requests in front of other people. But how do you teach a toddler the concept of privacy or keeping a secret, especially without making it seem to DS like nursing is somehow shameful? I'm at a loss for how to handle this and would love suggestions. The only thing I can think of is partial weaning, cutting our sessions down to specific times (e.g. morning before I go to work, afternoon when I get home, and bedtime) so DS knows not to expect nursing at other times, but I'd prefer not to cut back that much yet if there's some other way of avoiding these situations. Thanks in advance for any insights! DS is otherwise a happy, confident, securely attached little boy. He just really loves his nu-nu and as my DH says, it's kind of like his Valium when he's upset or stressed.