Hello. I've posted similar questions before, and I know there are a lot of other threads on night waking and nursing. I don't want to "beat a dead horse", but I need a little reassurance and support. My son is 13 months old, and still nurses to sleep. He also wakes up 3-5 times a night (more or less) depending on the day. He sleeps in his crib from bedtime-10 pm, then I move him in bed with us. He's starting to get more restless when he co sleeps. More and more, he is constantly tossing and turning, wanting to nurse non-stop, and occasionally head butting me. It's getting tougher for me to feel well rested.
Also, from the age of about 10 months, he won't let my husband put him back to sleep like he used to. I think now he realizes that daddy doesn't have the milk. So, if my husband goes in, it might take 30 minutes for him to put him back to sleep or it might not work at all. So, I am shouldering the night waking alone (like many nursing mamas). I am starting to get resentful towards my husband and my son, that nothing seems to be changing or getting any better. I keep waiting for the magic night where he sleeps longer stretches, and it just isn't happening. I can't help but feel like most other kids my sons age sleep through the night. I am so jealous and bitter. I am dying for 1 full night of sleep. I know that most nursing moms said their kids outgrow it by age 2-3, but the thought of doing this for 2 more years scares the hell out of me. I don't mind nursing occasionally at night, but I'd love to get it down to 1-2 times, not all night long.
I've also posted something in the past about my worries about my son growing up and having sleep issues because he nurses to sleep, and someone gave the great advice "don't borrow trouble from the future". Which is excellent advice. But I still can't help but worry about if I'm setting him up to be a poor sleeper the rest of his childhood. He can fall asleep other ways, aside from nursing, but he prefers to nurse back to sleep. I don't know if I should be encouraging him to fall asleep not nursing by now. I'm against crying it out, and can't do it. I've read a ton of books about sleep and asked a lot of moms for advice, and it seems like the two camps are either cry-it-out or deal with it until he outgrows it. Neither of these options make me feel any better right now. I can't help but think of other moms who say that their 3 year old is still up 4 times a night, or my friend's 5 year old who cried at her own sleepover because she wanted to be in bed with her mom. I don't want my son to be so dependent on sleeping with me that he can't go to sleepovers, or will still need to sleep next to me 5 years from now. Maybe I am "borrowing trouble from the future" and I know I'm obsessing over the sleep thing. I've tried to let it go, and just be happy with where we are, but I can't help but worry. I know that the thought he'll never sleep well is ridiculous, but what if I have the 1 kid out of 100 with recurring sleep issues? Or the kid who won't get out of my bed until he's 10?
Thanks for letting me vent, I just need somewhere to express my desperation and fears about the night wakings. I'd love to hear from other moms who successfully stopped night nursing, night waking, and moved their kid into their own bed.