Hi! I have a 3 week old daughter, and we have been experiencing the many ups and downs of breastfeeding. Here is our story..
At birth my daughter was born tongue tied. (which is when your tongue is tied to the floor of your mouth by a frenulum or a piece of skin) After working with 3 different lactation consultants in the hospital, we got at good start with nursing. The pediatrician, as well as the lactation consultants, reccommended that we have her frenulum clipped (frenulectemy) to 1. Make sure she doesn't have any speech problems later 2. To make sure she is able to breastfeed effectively. So, at five days old we had her frenulum clipped.
Breastfeeding had been going fine, but when she was a week and a half old, my nipples began to severely crack and bleed. At that point breastfeeding was soooooo painful that I had to stop. I rented a hospital grade pump, and have been pumping ever since. Now that my nipples are healed, I've been latching her on a couple times every day. She never seems completely satisfied after a feeding, and I have to supplement her with EBM after nursing. I have a hard time nursing her exclusively throughout the day because 1. I have a 2 1/2 year old son who needs my attention 2. I'm scared my nipples will break down again.
As previously mentioned I have a 2 1/2 year old son, which has made this hard. My husband works 55 hours per week and I am soley responsible for the care of my son, and newborn. When I sit down to try and breastfeed, something always comes up with my son and I can't relax. So, I've been breastfeeding her only when he is napping and pumping throughout the day. Also, I've been supplementing her at night with formula with hopes of her sleeping longer because I am exhausted. My husband is off for the next 2 days, and I would like to have a "nurse in". I am going to let him care for our son, and try to relax and feed my daughter exclusively the breast for the entire day. I am at the point where it is either going to work or I'm going to stop entirely because it is not easy to pump and care for two young children.
My questions are:
1. I've been pumping every 4 hours during the day, and 5 hours at night. Plus, I've been doing some formula supplementation at night. Do you think my supply will ever meet her demands again?
2. Do you think that it is possible to re-establish a good breastfeeding relationship at this point?
I appreciate any opinions offered. Thank you for reading my long story.