As the title says, I'm ready to embrace nursing as a long-term reality for DS26mo and me. DS is a boy who still nurses like a newborn and, cognitively and physically, he's thriving on what is still easily 10-12+ nursing sessions each day, of which 2-3 are at night. I've been taking domperidone since he was 13mo and am grateful that it's facilitated our nursing longevity.
DS is still a sporadic eater and, when he does eat, he shows carnivorous tendencies, so his nutritional bases are covered. I'm an enthusiastic champion of solids and nursing, which has helped him edge up his solids intake to maybe 200kcal offload daily.
Two major topics:
1. For the mamas nursing children in the "and beyond" stage of 2+, how did your nursing journey evolve? Given DS' self-labeling as a "nursivore", I can easily see us nursing and cosleeping to 3 and beyond, which works for me if that's what he needs.
2. On a maternal health note, I haven't had any PP periods yet, and charting shows (unsurprisingly, given our frequency) no sign of returning. I'm still carrying extra weight that I've been unable to lose, though, which is becoming somewhat frustrating. I was almost back to pre-pregnancy weight around 8 months PP, but am now +35lbs (yikes!), which coincides in part to my starting on domperidone. Any time I try to reduce dietary intake or exercise--even moderate weightlifting for about 4-5 hours/week--my supply tanks dramatically. I'm careful to keep my energy deficit low, around 300kcal/day, and hydration up, but to no avail.
For my own health, and for the sake of modeling a healthy life, I need to find a solution. It seems as time goes on that I need to eat more--going into energy surplus--to maintain supply, and I'm packing on the pounds as a result. I'm considering having thyroid testing done, as I was in phenomenal shape and extremely athletic pre-BFing and I am missing intense weightlifting. I don't want to have to wait until DS is no longer so reliant on nursing to reclaim training as part of my life. It was always my "zen" and I feel like a fraud walking around carrying 35 extra pounds of fat!
I worked with a trainer and nutritionist last year, but only managed to shed 5lbs--probably 3lbs of which was water--in 5 months following their plans to a T. I then put on an extra 15lbs, in addition to the 20 I was trying to lose, even while maintaining the eating habits, albeit scaled down to account for less exercise energy expenditure. I was told that my night sleep disturbances were the cause of slow fat loss, which seems far fetched given that I was always ripped pre-pregnancy even when eating heartily.
For the time being, I'm eating whole foods, focusing on lean protein, veggies, fruits, nuts, yogurt, and ancient grains and increasing my activity gently by adding in extra walking around town and hoping gentleness will win my body over. I sleep 9 hours at night with minimal disturbances to nurse, have no food intolerances, and take a prenatal and probiotics daily. I am totally comfortable taking a longer path--say, a year--to drop the fat. What is important is that both DS' and my health needs are met without one being cannibalized by the other. I am not comfortable living in a sub-optimal health state for an extended period of time.
Thanks ladies, for reading this multifaceted novella.