Re: nightweaning, toddler nursing, and other things
I tried nightweaning DS1 at 18 months, when I was pregnant with DS2. I attempted the Gordon method. After just a couple of nights of screaming (much like what you're experiencing) I abandoned it. I tried again a couple months later and was much more successful.
How determined are you to night wean right now? If you really want to cease night time nursing, then push through, be persistant, be patient. Eventually he'll come to realize that he's not getting what he wants, but be prepared to be exhausted in the meantime.
One thing that helped me night wean DS1 was a good nightshirt and nighttime bra. I called it my "armor". It kept DS1 from helping himself to the boobie bar (which happened more than occasionally!) and kept me from leaking all over the bed. I'd wake up when DS1 pawed at my chest, mumble "not right now, it's time to sleep", and snuggle with him until he fell back asleep.
I feel I must warn you though... Night weaning does not necessarily mean cessation of nighttime waking. Even after DS1 night weaned, he still woke up every two hours. He didn't nurse, but he did wake me up each time.
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