Re: Breastfeeding fathers
DH is very supportive of breastfeeding. He bonded with DS1 almost immediately. He wore DS1 for walks (summer baby), and sat up with him at night when he had his days and nights confused.
DS2 was harder for DH. The first 4 months of DS2's life he cried whenever DH held him. This was especially bad at bedtime, when DH held DS2 while I prepped DS1 for bed and got him to sleep -- DS2 spend the entire 60-90 minutes screaming his head off. DH used to call me "Good Parent". Around the 6 month mark DS2 stopped screaming at his daddy and then the bonding really began. Now, at 12 months, DH is DS2's favorite person, more so than me! (All of which to say, even if your husband doesn't feel bonded right now, it CAN happen later!)
DH has always taken care of diapers when he's home. We never did the pumped milk thing, neither of the boys really took to bottles. He also reads to them a lot. Maybe your husband could try reading to your baby?
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