I have a two month old who is unable to handle my letdown when he is awake. When he is sleepy or half asleep he coughs or comes off but comes back on the breast and is fine. But when he is awake he just wouldn't latch back on and now he associates my breast with all the crying and the trauma so he starts screaming as soon as I take him in position to feed. So during our feeding sessions in his awake hours he screams and cries because he is hungry, but wont nurse. He finally latches on after he cries himself to sleep. I give him bottle of expressed milk sometimes to spare him all the tears but I don't want to do that specially because I am a SAHM and I can completely do away with the bottle.
My questions are
How do I lure him back to my breast?
I tried nipple shield couple of times, it worked but what are the problems that come with it?
Can i have a strong letdown without an oversupply? I ask because I don't think i have an oversupply and I also want to know if I can pump once or twice a week without worsening my situation.
How long will it take for him to get used to the letdown? I feel like giving up at every feeding and I still try again because I love our bf time.
He gained 2.5 lbs in the first month and the letdown and nursing issues started in the second month in which he gained only 1.5 lb. I know it is good weight gain but he was born very small and I want him to grow big... Greedy but guilty as charged.