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    Default Did your toddler exhibit strange behavior after weaning?

    I recently completed weaning my 3 year old daughter (one month ago) and since then she has exhibited some unusual behavior that I don't totally understand. I'm not sure if it has anything to do with the weaning, but the timing suggests that perhaps it is. I have already taken her to a few doctors appointments to rule out some medical issues. All appears normal.
    The behavior that quite suddenly started happening is what I can only describe as "drunken" or some might call "slap-happy" but it is pronounced, extreme, and started quite suddenly. There are usually several hours a day in which she suddenly acts totally different than her normal self. She isn't necessarily crabby, but she suddenly starts moving in an uncoordinated clumsy manner, slurring her words or talking in a way that makes no sense, not answering questions appropriatedly (for example if, during this time, I would ask her something like "where is your kitty cat?" she might answer something totally non sensible such as "so I'm pooping on this book" in a really loopy tone of voice) this is not how she normally is, during her normal "state" she usually converses quite logically for her age and speaks in a normal, alert tone of voice. Other symptoms are her asking the same question over and over again, being very destructive (throwing things or breaking them and laughing) among other things.

    Like I said, I've brought her to the doctor and he has ruled out hypoglycemia/diabetes and seizures. He suspects it is emotionally related to the weaning. Has anyone else experienced this? What is especially strange is that it comes on very suddenly, lasts a few hours, then suddenly goes away and she is completely back to normal. There is never a point at which she is kindof in one state and kindof in another. It is either normal, or this totally "loopy" toddler. Any insight appreciated!

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    Default Re: Did your toddler exhibit strange behavior after weaning?

    Welcome to the forum!

    Neither of my kids did anything like that after weaning. But I did once get good advice about weird behaviors that are tough to explain to someone else (e.g. the pediatrician), and that was to videotape them if possible. Your doc may view them differently if he/she can actually SEE them in action.

    I don't like to push people towards more medical tests, but your mommy radar is already going off... So I think that in your shoes, I might try to see a pediatric neurologist and/or a child psychologist. Maybe a specialist will see something the pediatrician isn't quite catching.
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    I have to agree with mommal. Videotaping is a great idea, especially if you can do it without her realizing it.

    Was the weaning traumatic or sudden?
    My children nursed until later but I run a toddler meeting and of course know dozens of mothers who weaned at 1, 2 and 3 years of age and I have never heard of anything like this being related to weaning.

    Some kids in general can get VERY silly and wild especially if they are overtired. But since you are worried I assume this feels like something else to you?

    Is there a new sibling or some other major change?

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    I really want to try and get it on video because it's rather hard to describe.

    I wouldn't say the weaning was particularly traumatic, she actually accepted it much more gracefully than I anticipated. We had been winding down all summer and had nursed twice a day for a few months before I decided I wanted to be completely done. We had a long conversation about it and although she expressed sadness at being done with nursing, she seemed to understand what was happening. Now I am wondering if perhaps it was much more difficult for her than she was letting on and this strange behavior is how she is coping in some way

    I do think that exhaustion is somehow playing into it, because she has been taking many less naps than previously. My only confusion here is that the weird behavior often occurs for a few hours after waking in the morning - it doesn't seem like she would be overtired at that point.

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    I am still not convinced it has anything to do with weaning. One way to test the theory would be to offer to nurse again. Even if there is no milk anymore or she has forgotten how, just having it offered is sometimes what kids want.

    I do think that exhaustion is somehow playing into it, because she has been taking many less naps than previously. My only confusion here is that the weird behavior often occurs for a few hours after waking in the morning - it doesn't seem like she would be overtired at that point.
    Is she still napping every day? Maybe the nap needs to be a little earlier? In my experience, optimal naptimes keep changing over time.

    Is this your oldest or only child? How much do you get to experience other three year olds? Is your daughter in preschool or daycare? If not, do you get out much, does she have playgroups or playdates, mommy and me classes, etc? Sometimes it helps to see what other kids the same age are doing and compare notes with other moms who can see your child in action.

    The other thing I wondered is if she is possibly imitating someone she knows, another child or adult, or someone she saw on tv? I was thinking about it and I remembered when my oldest son was in Kindergarten (he was 5) he would often get into the car after I picked him up, acting strangely and talking in a way that was very different than normal. I realized he sounded like one of his new friends, a little boy who I soon discovered had some pretty umm, interesting behavior issues and was very dissimilar to my son.

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    My toddler isn't exhibiting behaviour that worries me from a neurological standpoint, but I am noticing that he acts up for a few hours each day and I can't really help him a lot during these times. He is not "bad" just off the wall and doesn't seem to hear me--like he has had too much sugar. He has also started sucking his fingers.

    Similar sort of situation as yours: he was only nursing once or twice a day and is 33 months old. He has a milk and soy allergy and I ate some stuff with cow's milk in it on a cruise and he was getting sick on my milk because of it. We talked about the fact he was getting sick on my milk and that he had to stop (the protein usually causes a reaction in him for a while after I ingest it).

    I started nursing him again (right before writing this entry) after about 10 days of stopping. He says there is still milk in there and is happy as a clam to nurse. I don't think I was emotionally ready to stop and maybe he wasn't either. I love it and also with the crazies for a part of the day I couldn't really help redirect him and it felt like our bond wasn't as strong. So on we go! No cheese and yogurt and pastries for me!

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    Sorry about the no dairy, but I can say I also found parenting a young child easier (which is not the same as easy!!!) while nursing.

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