Re: Soft Breast Syndrom??
First off, it sounds like your daycare is overfeeding your baby pretty significantly. The rule of thumb is that a breastfed baby needs around 1.5 oz of milk per hour of separation- some babies will take less, some will take more (particularly during growth spurts). But your baby is routinely taking over 2.5 oz per hour and the daycare is still asking for more. To me, that spells overfeeding, and I would want to have a sit down with the daycare provider and discuss how she's feeding the baby. Is she familiar with the eating patterns of breastfed babies? Is she using paced feeding techniques? Feeding on demand? Is she encouraging the baby to finish the bottles? Swapping in a pacifier after the baby finishes the bottle? Giving a little extra so that baby will go down for a long nap? I would also start breaking down your bottles into smaller sizes- perhaps a 3 oz bottle and a couple of 1 oz "top-off" bottles. That way the daycare worker will be forced to pause the feeding in order to reach for the second bottle, giving your baby a chance to decide whether or not he's actually still hungry.
"Soft breast syndrome" sounds like something your girlfriend made up. But she is correct that when mom's supply and baby's demand have adjusted to match each other very well, it is typical for mom to have a little more trouble keeping up when using the pump.
Ways to get more milk when pumping:
- Pump more often, including pumping at home after nursing if more workday pump breaks are not possible for you
- Use a better pump
- Make sure your pump is working well! and that your shields are the right size
Herbal supplements like fenugreek and oatmeal may also be useful, but do not expect them to make a huge difference in your pump amounts. Increased stimulation to and milk removal from the breast is better than any herb or drug on the market.
The best way to get nursing breaks would be to talk it through with your boss, explain the situation you find yourself in, and hope for the best. A note from your doc might help, but I wouldn't make that my first tactic. Honestly, if it were me I would want to address overfeeding at daycare, rather than ask for more pump breaks.
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