Hi...I've been reading through this forum for a few weeks now, and I finally decided to post my plea for help.
I am a first-time mom to a four week old. I had great dreams of the breast-feeding experience, but now that I'm four weeks in and really having a lot of struggles I don't know how much longer I'm going to make it!
With all the reading and the research that I've done on this forum and other websites, I've gathered the following issues with my son:
1/ not efficient at the breast
2/ constantly sleepy at the breast -will feed sometimes for as short as 3 to 4 minutes and then completely fall asleep
3/ potentially might be a "snacker" or has associated the breast with just comfort
4/ not a strong, good latch?
So then what is happening is when he's throwing an absolute tantrum...I try to keep breast feeding, but the above 4 things 'happen' and then ultimately I'll give him expressed milk from a bottle. Please understand that this is painfully my last resort...and it's often after 2 hr feeding session (or attempt at a feeding session)...that goes a little like feed for a few minutes, fall asleep, spend some time trying to wake him, maybe do a diaper change, he awakes, cries & fusses, so then try again with the breast. This cycle can repeat itself 4-5x in one session...which ends up being around 2+ hrs! And at the end...he may fall asleep for 20-45 min at most... & when he wakes & goes crazy...I can't keep going, so I give him a bottle, which he will guzzle down.
I originally thought I wasn't producing enough...but I think my production is decent (not a ton, but it's decent & getting better). I do know & believe that he doesn't have a good latch (the LC at the hospital mentioned this...as he wasn't grabbing all the aureola in his mouth) but would fixing this, fix all the other problems? I'm not sure...
I finally broke down & called a lactation consultant this morning, referred by our pediatrician...it took a lot for me to finally call her..& then I was completely disappointed that she never returned my phone call. I don't know why...but I was very nervous to blindly call her...
I fear he's going to start getting used to feeding from the bottle & will never be a good feeder at the breast. I'm exhausted & can't keep doing these 2+ sessions back to back all day. I'm already fearing how this is all going to turn out when I have to return to work in 8 weeks.
Any advice on how to turn things around before I give up? I won't give up on giving breast milk, but I probably won't be able to breastfeed if it continues like this. Oh, another note is some really bad days, we'll supplement w formula, too.