My question is about stress and milk production. I have read a lot of different sites and books that say your milk production goes down when you are under stress. I have a huge problem with stress right now.
My husband has a wonderful family most of whom I love as though I have known them my whole life (more than I can say for some of my own family). His grandparents are the most supportive and wonderful people ever and his sister wants me (and me alone) with her in her bridal suite the day she gets married (we are estimating two years on this). The problem is actually his mother. I would say that isn't a problem but since she got separated from her husband, she lives with his grandparents (thank god it isn't me she lives with). I happen to like going over there for family time and games (football and board games). My baby isn't due for a couple of months but I am already stressing about her very presence (if you knew her, you would definitely understand). She likes to try to control people, tell everyone how to live and what is best for their children. And the way she treated my husband while he was growing up...makes me want her to just disappear forever.
My problem is this; if I ask my husband's grandmother to come help me after my baby is born, my mother-in-law might think it is her right to come help me too. I don't like her, don't want her in my house (she steals medication, all medication) and don't want her around my children. MIL = Stress. To sum it all up.
Do I need to avoid the house she lives in? I don't want to avoid my husband's grandparents, but I can't go there without seeing her. Also, I can't invite them over or she'll come too. What do I do?