My DS is 2 (25 months to be exact). We are still nursing somewhere between 4-6 times per day. I work full-time so this is a few times in the morning, a few more in the evening, and usually once overnight. I am fine with him continuing to nurse for now and in fact would be sad to give it up. However, I know my DH and family will disapprove of me nursing a 3 or 4 year old and I'm not even sure I want to do that. I asked my pediatrician, who is reasonably supportive of breastfeeding (even of toddlers) if it was likely that my son would wean on his own by age 3 or so, and she said she didn't think so, that some kids just love nursing and if DS is like that he probably won't give it up on his own and I'll have to actively wean him. This makes me sad I don't want to take something away from him while he still wants/needs it. At the same time I'm not so sure I want to nurse a 4 year old (not to mention the grief I will get from DH and family about that).
I'm wondering how natural, child-led weaning happens? DS still asks all the time now, and would nurse 8+ times a day if allowed (and does on weekends sometimes). I know he's still little and his behavior will probably change dramatically over the next year or so. I'm wondering, for those of you who followed a path of child-led weaning, how and when did it happen? Was your LO still nursing so enthusiastically at age 2? Did it stop fairly suddenly? Did they cut down the frequency very gradually? Did you have to encourage it at some point? How does this happen?
I'm not even feeling great about cutting down to 5ish times a day, as I've done over the past few weeks. I'm feeling sad and missing my DS more when at work (I'm also away from home longer each day as we recently moved and my commute is longer, which sucks). However, DH is clearly happy not to see me with my boob out literally all.the.time and has reverted to being if not supportive, at least neutral on our nursing relationship (as some of you may remember from a prior post, he was giving me a hard time about it a few weeks back). So that's been good. I just don't like having to tell DS "no" so often! He accepts "no" fairly gracefully, and I do think many times it is not so much nursing he wants, as my cuddles and my full attention. Nursing is just his bid to get my attention and usually he's happy enough to do something else with me. So he seems to be doing okay with the cut-back in frequency.