Re: FTM EBW questioning myself
Amen!!!! And not only is the work monotonous, but your employer is super-demanding and everyone acts like you have the best job in the world despite the fact that you're frequently covered in someone else's bodily fluids. "You're a new mommy- all that fun time just hanging out and relaxing with your adorable baby!"
I have to admit it's a great shock for me. Of course I knew it's not walking in the park, but didn't realize how hard, monotonous job it is and how little free time I'd have.
It gets better, mama. And more fun.
Oh, those whacky HVs!!!! I can't tell you how many times we've had UK moms come through here with some new nugget of crazy fed to them by their HV, almost always regarding the baby's growth not looking like it "should", vis à vis the chart. I really think the HV system is wonderful, but in this one area it seems to be pretty defective. As LLLMeg said, it's totally normal for babies to move around on the charts. My kids, for example, were born small (the first one was only in the 20th %ile) and then rapidly climbed to the 99-100th %ile, and then dropped back to the 75-80th- all in their first 6 months! The pediatrician never said anything about it other than "great job, mom".
-super fast weight gain (8.5lb birth, 15.8lb now at 11 weeks) The HV saw me on Monday and she said she's concerned with my DD weight gain. I don't know how about US but in UK we have those weight charts. My LO started in 75centiles, jumped to 91 centiles at 7 weeks and now she's over 98th.
Breastfed babies tend to gain weight relatively fast in the newborn period, when all they do is lie around. But once they start getting mobile, they tend to drop percentiles as they allocate increasing numbers of calories to motion, rather than packing them on as fat. Formula-fed babies tend to do the opposite- they gain slow in the newborn period, and then speed up as they get older. Guess which pattern is the healthy one!
You can encourage that to change by doing things like turning the lights, TV, and stereo down or preferably off in the evening, and making sure your baby gets natural light exposure during the day. Those 2 things will help to set her circadian rhythms in a pattern that matches light levels.
Also can you reassure me about my DD "bedtime". Currently she falls asleep around 1-2 am. When can I see that changing? I don't mind it so much for now, I'm just afraid of creating a bad habit
A bedtime routine, consisting of bath, cuddles, clean pajamas, and lots of nursing should also help get your baby into a "this is bedtime" mood.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"