Re: I need help
3-5 minute feedings can be totally normal. My second kid fed in under 5 minutes from about 1 week of age on. She was a very efficient feeder and I had a large milk supply. Lots of milk generally results in fast letdowns, which means that the baby can get all she needs in just a few minutes. My kid also did a lot of the behavior you're describing- crying and fussing at the breast, pulling off and screaming, choking. The fact that you still feel full at the 1 month mark means that you're probably still producing somewhat more milk than your baby needs, and that generally means fast letdowns.
If your baby is having enough wet/poopy diapers and is gaining weight appropriately, then breastfeeding is going right at the most basic level, and all you need to do is work on the fine points and wait for your baby to mature a bit. New babies tend to be fussy because that is their default. If they are hungry, they fuss. If they are full, they fuss. Full of gas or needing to poop- fuss. Tired- fuss. If the milk comes out to fast or too slow, they fuss. Etc.
Does the baby's fussiness tend to intensify over the course of the day, or peak at any one time of day?
How often does the baby feed?
How has his weight gain been?
Does he ever make a click, cluck, splutter, cough, or gag noise while nursing?
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