Re: DS is 2--DH becoming less supportive of nursing
I'm so sorry your DH is being so ridiculous about nursing. Like all things related to parenting, it's best when mom and dad are on the same page!
In your shoes, I would challenge some of your DH's assumptions about breastfeeding a toddler. WHY does he think it's weird? WHY does he care what other people think about how much and whether you nurse? WHY does he think that your child would magically become a different person if you weaned him? The book on child development would really help here. And maybe have him read the AAP's policy statement on breastfeeding? The relevant bit here would be the part about how "there is no evidence of psychological or developmental harm" when breastfeeding continues to age 3 or longer. (I wish they would rephrase that to incorporate the excellent evidence for benefit, but hey, sometimes you play the cards you're dealt.)
I would also try to meet him halfway on some things, like nursing being inconvenient when someone is trying to get out of the house, and nursing interfering with daddy's ability to have one-on-one cuddle time with his kid. Maybe think about a ban on nursing when someone needs to get in the car and go, or having dad and son have some one-on-one time where you and your breasts aren't available for distraction.
Honestly, I think you're being too kind. Your family is being pushy, and in your shoes I'd want to push back. The next time someone makes one of those passive-aggressive comments about nursing (e.g. "It must be making you tired" or "You could always move the nursing chair into the hallway"), or one of the not-so-passive ones (e.g. "Weaning will be traumatic" or "I hope you're going to wean soon!") look them right in the eye and say something like "Nursing is between me and my kid, not me and my kid and you. I do not want to hear any more comments on it. Period."
So they are aware it is going on, and how often, and it's clear they aren't really comfortable with it. E.g. I get suggestions from them to cut it down to once or twice a day, to remove the nursing chair from the nursery, my MIL comments on how draining nursing is and 'it must be making you tired' and how traumatic it will be for DS to wean (in her opinion it would have been less traumatic if done earlier--my opinion is it doesn't NEED to be traumatic at all if I let DS decide the timeline). My dad comments that 'you're going to wean that kid sometime--at least, I hope you are'. That kind of thing. Nobody has been too terribly pushy about it and so far I've smiled and ignored their comments or just flat-out said that it's my choice and I appreciate them respecting my decision
Last edited by @llli*mommal; November 21st, 2013 at 01:18 PM.
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