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    Default nursing like a newborn :/

    My 18 month old is nursing ALL. THE. TIME.

    It's really weird because he was down to like 3 nursing sessions during the day (wake-up, nap /or/ daycare pickup, and bedtime -- all baby-led, I'm just following his lead) and then a few times overnight of course.

    But lately he is nursing like a newborn! Like every hour (not exaggerating) asking to nurse.

    I am pretty sure he's teething on 2nd year molars (haven't seen any come thru yet though). He's also had a big language burst (like ~30 words/signs over 4 mos), and nursing was his first sign too so it's definitely a favorite request So maybe it's a combination of teething relief + the enjoyment of asking and receiving through language?

    I don't object in any specific way, as I'm not trying to wean him -- but it's making me MAJORLY touched out. To go from nursing 3x/daytime and really enjoying a new relationship with him and his growing independence, to like 10x/daytime plus currently waking hourly-ish and also nursing back down (I blame teeth?) ... it's a bit overwhelming for me, plus his toddler acrobatics and physicality while nursing (he's always touching my face, hair, neck, running his hands over my chest, etc - not in an uncomfortable way but it's just TOO MUCH TOUCHING). The only way I can get a break is to physically leave the room or the house, because obviously he doesn't ask dad for nursing! I really want to enjoy my time with my son, but I don't enjoy THIS much nursing.

    Do I just wait for it to pass? Does it pass? Do I start setting limits? Who else has gone through this? TIA for the advice.

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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mercystreet View Post
    So maybe it's a combination of teething relief + the enjoyment of asking and receiving through language?
    You nailed it.

    What you do about it is up to you. I mean, this will pass if you just roll with it. But at 18 months you can certainly start putting limits on nursing. You can limit the times when your LO nurses, limit the amount of time he is allowed to spend at the breast, and/or limit the places where nursing is allowed (e.g. yes at home on the couch, no at the grocery store). You can also limit how he acts on the breast (e.g. no nursing upside down, no twiddling, no eye-poking, etc.).
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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    No advice, just lots of commiseration. DS almost-25mo is still a like-a-newborn nurser. I roll with it, but some days are really draining, figuratively and literally!

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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    But lately he is nursing like a newborn! Like every hour (not exaggerating) asking to nurse.*I am pretty sure he's teething on 2nd year molars (haven't seen any come thru yet though). He's also had a big language burst (like ~30 words/signs over 4 mos), and nursing was his first sign too so it's definitely a favorite request**So maybe it's a combination of teething relief + the enjoyment of asking and receiving through language?
    My son just went through this exact same thing. (with the added bonus of getting up to play in the night after nursing non-stop for several hours.)
    I had a couple nights where I had to run out of the room because I felt like I was going to lose my mind.
    But he just turned 19 months and has suddenly gone back to normal.
    Well, a new normal, we now have a routine of nursing while reading in the evening for around 40 minutes. But he is sleeping good and not asking to nurse alllll day long. And I notice a distinct difference in his level of communication. Very exciting!
    Giving him his favorite stuffed cat to hold helped with the touching at night.
    During the day I played finger games like this litte piggy or sang/read to him. It helped to entertain myself too
    I suggest you wait it out.
    Last edited by @llli*nathansmum; November 19th, 2013 at 12:34 AM.

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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    Yup. All of the above.

    I found distraction worked best for us. So offering a new toy, colouring, show, going outside, food item, whatever. "How about some apple/peach/etc.?" had the added bonus of something cool on those new sore teeth / gums.

    DD3 is 22 months now. She rarely asks during the day. However there are those moments I think she wants to meld with my hip! Just as with everything else, it will pass.
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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    Thanks ladies. Glad I'm not alone. For now I'm just waiting it out, pretty much nursing on demand at night, and during the day if I am feeling nursed out, I will offer water, snacks, playtime instead (and if all else fails I will still nurse, but usually this gives me enough of a break that it's not wearing on me too much ... yet). It's hard to say no when I know he's in pain. These 2nd yr molars are a bear. And I'm pretty sure he's growth spurting. And he's having a huge developmental leap with language. Oh and he's getting sick now too. It's like we're in the dead center of a big venn diagram of suck.

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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    Oh my gosh, ladies, we now have a WORD for nursing as well as a sign, so he is asking for it all. the. time. It's kind of cute ("nuss! nuss!" with both fists doing the sign for milk very enthusiastically) but it's also more or less constant. Sigh.

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    Default Re: nursing like a newborn :/

    It'll pass, mama. I promise. Once they get their word, they practice all. the. time. For a while, anyway! Pretty soon he'll be onto a new word.

    Deep breaths. Find your happy place. And crack a bottle of wine once he goes to bed- you've earned it!!!
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