Re: Returning to work soon
Most moms start by pumping right after the first morning feeding. Levels of prolactin (the milk-making hormone) tend to peak overnight, so most moms have the most extra milk first thing in the morning. Pump at the same time for several days in a row and see how much milk you're getting. If you need more, start pumping after a second feeding, do that for several days, etc.
When should I pump in order to start putting some milk up for him while I'm at work?
Ways to keep supply adequate to demand:
I know my supply is good now, but how do I ensure that it stays that way because I don't want him to have formula.
- Nurse on demand when you're with your baby.
- If baby doesn't demand some night-nursing, make sure you wake him to feed at least 1x overnight. More night-nursing = better daytime supply.
- Make sure baby isn't being overfed during the day. If baby is overfed during the day, it will lead to reduced need for calories when you and baby are together, which in turn will result in less nursing and more and more reliance on pumping in order to maintain supply. A baby should get around 1.5 oz of milk per hour of separation from mom.
- Pump frequently at work. As long as your workday pump sessions are yielding enough milk to fill the baby's bottles for the following day, supply and demand are matching well.
- If your workday pump sessions aren't yielding enough, make sure your pump is functioning properly and that your shields are properly sized. If optimizing those variables doesn't get you more milk, increase your number of workday pump sessions (if possible), or add pump sessions after nursing when you and your baby are together.
Not due to breastfeeding. Due to the condition of being a baby. Bottlefed babies often exhibit the same strong preference for their mommies as breastfed ones do.
Also he eats about every 30 minutes and he loves to use my breast as a pacifier, which I am 100% OK with, but I'm worried about going back to work because he is very partial to me and gets upset when held by anyone else. I'm assuming this is due ]to the breastfeeding as well.
Give Daddy more chances. It's really hard for a nursing mom not to swoop in and take charge of baby the moment he fusses or cries, but that can undermine your faith in Daddy's ability to soothe the baby and also Daddy's ability to be able to soothe the baby. Start by taking a short walk right after nursing, without dad or baby, and give them a chance to figure things out.
How do I get him used to his Daddy and help him to know that Daddy will be able to take care of him too?
Don't think of silicone pacifiers as "real". The breast- that's the REAL and the original pacifier! The things you buy in the store are just substitutes.
So far he will not take a real pacifier.
Probably, but just because someone says that paci X is made for breastfed babies doesn't mean that your baby will be into it. Buy a selection and see if there's any that your baby likes.
Is there a certain pacifier that is specially made for breastfed babies?
Yes. Just make sure you're using a slow-flow (newborn) nipple. The playtex bottles have various sizes of nipples- size 1, size 2, etc. You'll probably never need the larger sizes, which are designed to allow formula-fed babies to eat faster, meaning that they require less holding. A breastfed baby can stick with the newborn size.
We currently have Playtex Nurser bottles with the drop in liners, are those OK to use?
Continue to feed on demand and to offer the breast as a pacifier. Nurse at night. Keep your supply equal to baby's needs. Make sure the baby is fed appropriate amounts in a breastfeeding-supportive way (small, frequent bottles, paced feedings, last feeding not too close to the time you arrive home).
I'm so scared he's going to decide the bottle is better than the breast. How do I prevent that from happening?
ETA: the PP beat me to it!
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