Re: Waiting for Baby to self-feed..need advice
Both my kids have been self-feeders from their earliest tastes of solids. My first was a self-feeder because she hated the spoon. If I brought it near her mouth, she would bat it away and send mashed carrots flying. My second kid didn't hate the spoon, but self-feeding (a.k.a. baby-led solids) had been so successful with her older sister that I never bothered spoon-feeding her.
One thing that I think a lot of people- even pediatricians- get wrong is that they confuse introducing solids with giving a baby massive amounts of solids and beginning to reduce the baby's intake via breast or bottle. Luckily, I had a great pediatrician who told me that "Until the first birthday, breastmilk or formula are capable of meeting all of a baby's nutritional needs, and solids are only for experimenting with new tastes, textures, and motor skills." What this translates to is that a baby's first tastes of solid foods should be small. A teaspoon or two a day in amount, offered after breast or bottle, and really just for fun with a new taste and a new skill. If baby eats some of her solids, great. If she tastes them and then spits them out, still great- at least she tried. And if she refuses to eat them and merely smushed them around with her hands, still great- she had a fun learning experience and that's really all that is necessary.
Allowing a baby to self-feed does not necessitate waiting longer than 6 months. You can introduce self-feeding pretty much as soon as baby can sit unsupported in a high chair, grasp food and bring it to his mouth, and has lost his tongue thrust reflex.
Is there a reason why your pediatrician is pushing solids so hard?
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