Hi ladies -
I am really struggling here and I thought I'd come to you (again) for your wisdom.
I've been on the forum before mostly for issues having to do with my indifferent nursling. Since day one I've been through so many nursing strikes and plugged ducts and taken all sorts of measures to get her to nurse but we managed to nurse exclusively for one year and she arrived at her first birthday in the 100% percentile.
She is now 13 months old.
She started solids around 7 months, very slowly, with vegetables, fruits, rice and oats, and built up to yogurt, cheese, tofu and animal protein with no problems.
Then, around one year old, she came down with a bad case of diarrhea. I thought it was a virus but a week went by and she was not getting better. She had no fever or vomiting or temperament change other than pickiness with solid food.
Once major infection was ruled out, her pediatrician told me to cut out all dairy as she suspected lactose intolerance as a result of the diarrhea. But the diarrhea has persisted. So now the pedi is telling me it's the lactose in my breastmilk!
My daughter had no difficulty with breastmilk as an infant, no colic, barely any spitting up, etc.
Have any of you heard of toddlers suddenly becoming intolerant of their mother's milk after a year?
I've fought so hard to nurse this baby so to be told that my milk is poisoning her is really difficult.
But she's starting to lose weight so I feel like we need to do something.
To make matters worse she seems to be starting ANOTHER nursing strike (or weaning? How will I EVER know?) as she is biting me when I offer the breast during wakeful periods and only suckling (i.e. not drawing milk) before bed and naps.
So I've pulled out the pump which I SO happily put away a few weeks ago based on the advice here that I could finally RELAX nursing an older baby and now I'm pumping again to replace feedings as if she were a newborn.
I don't want to give her cow's milk, almond milk, or soy as it could make things worse (or more confusing) so I am giving her sippy cups of pump milk after she rejects me (I didn't do this at first but I am worried she is dehydrated from the diarrhea and I'm concerned about the weight loss).
I know there's a lot going on in this post but I am really desperate for advice and support. Everyone around me has been telling me to wean for months, and now the fact that her doctor is blaming my milk for her GI issues and my daughter herself doesn't seem to want to nurse, I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle.
I'm doing a lot of crying these days and I feel really alone in trying to figure this out.
Thanks in advance.