A four month old is biologically wired to sleep better in contact with mom and wakes and protests if mom is not in contact. It's a survival tool.Literally minutes after I leave the room she wakes up though.
I hear ya! with some babies being able to sneak away is just way more difficult. What i do is i sneak away but as soon as baby stirs, I go back and nurse baby again, if I catch it quick enough sometimes baby sleeps again. This works for number 3, but never would have worked for number one. I had to stay with him most of the time during naps.I'd like her to have at least one nap during the day when I can do something for myself, do something around the house, eat something etc.
Or I get me time doing something I can do while holding sleeping baby. Reading, computer, tv etc.
or I nap as well.
It is believed by some experts that sleep training babies works by convincing a baby that no one, not even their mother, will answer their cries, so they learn it is useless to cry so in order to save energy they stop. At the same time, mother becomes desensitized to their infant’s cries. Talk about 'breaking' a baby. Certainly there is no proof sleep training in any form is helpful or needed for normal sleep outcomes long term, in fact, this has been disproven.
I nursed my oldest two to sleep for naps and bedtime for years, right thru toddlerhood. Over time this naturally gets less and less needed. They are now 10 and 7, have long been weaned, and have for many years have had excellent sleep habits by which I mean they go to sleep at bedtime and sleep all night. No sleep training.