Re: Falls asleep nursing but wakes when I put him in the cri
Everything is a phase.
Don't compare yourself to those people who never nursed their babies to sleep. They might not have your particular challenge, but trust me: they had other challenges. Like struggling to get their babies to sleep without nursing. I'm guessing *some* crying was involved.
It's totally normal for babies to wake up the instant they are put down in a crib. Babies know instinctively that they are safest and warmest in mom's arms. Being out down... Well, as far as a baby knows we all still live in caves and when you're not in mom's arms, you're just a super-convenient snack for a hungry sabretooth tiger.
Anyway, some things you can do about the sleep issue:
1. Don't put baby down. Just pop him into your bed and when he's deeply asleep, slip away for some grown-up time. Just make sure you're following safe co-sleeping practices.
2. Warm the crib before you put baby in, using a hot pad or hot water bottle. Take the pad/bottle out, put the baby in, and hope for the best.
3. When putting the baby into the crib, leave a hand on him for several minutes. Gradually removing your physical presence, instead of taking it all away very abruptly, can help a baby stay settled in the crib.
4. Have baby sleep in a swing. Motion may trick him into thinking you're still there.
5. See this as an opportunity to help baby go to sleep without nursing. When he wakes up and fusses, pick him up, nurse him, and put him back in the crib while he is very drowsy but not totally asleep. Then stay there, perhaps with a hand on baby, or right next to him. Repeat the process as many times as necessary, until baby just can't keep his eyes open anymore. It may take HOURS to make this happen. But the idea is that this sort of thing teaches baby that he can go to sleep without your breast in his mouth, but it does so without being traumatic for him because you are righ there and you continue to be responsive to his cues.
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