Re: Please help...new here
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby and on making it through the first 2 weeks of nursing her!
It is generally recommended that moms delay introducing bottles and pumping into their lives for at least the first 4-6 weeks. During that time, you want to give yourself and your baby every possible chance to master breastfeeding at the breast. Once that is going really well, then you can introduce things like bottles, pumps, and pacis, because at that point they will be less likely to result in negative complications like nipple confusion, oversupply, latch problems, etc.
I totally understand your frustration at being tied to the couch, unable to do anything but nurse the baby. But please keep in mind that the first few weeks are really supposed to be this way. It's not a failure on your part if you're not running around, taking your big girl to the park, scrubbing the toilets, cooking all the meals. It's just how life is with a newborn. Everyone around you- and that includes your 5 year-old- should be doing their best to support YOU, making it possible for you to give the new baby the best possible start.
It gets better, I promise. Right now your baby needs to nurse all the time, and she probably takes a long time to feed and is difficult to position. But as babies get older, bigger, stronger, and more coordinated, they learn to feed much more rapidly- by a few months old many of them are capable of getting a full feeding in just 5-10 minutes at the breast. They also tend to space their feedings out a bit, and become so adept at positioning themselves that they can latch on with minimal help from you.
The frustrating behavior you're seeing at the breast- the kneading, gumming, pulling off, etc.- can have many causes. As long as diaper output remains normal, it's probably just baby's way of trying to get milk to let down, or to cope with the flow when it becomes too fast for her. Things you can do about it:
- Experiment with laid-back positions, since they tend to reduce fast letdowns and because they often require less positioning work from you
- Experiment with lots of different positions- you never know what will work best for you!
- See a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, for hands-on help- she may be able to pick up on something that cpjust can't be conveyed over the internet
My advice: give yourself a month- at least!- to heal from the birth, regain your strength, and master breastfeeding. And give your baby that much time to figure out how to get her needs met without kicking up a huge fuss. If you reach the 4-6 week zone and you're still having trouble, then let's talk about pumping and bottles and what they may be able to do for you.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"