I'm wondering if anyone has any tips or particular resources to suggest in this case. My husband was very supportive of breastfeeding inititally and really helped me succeed with our first child, but with our second now at 15 months old, he is pressuring me to wean her. I think it has mostly to do with sleep - we all sleep together on a king plus queen together in one room, and she has been super fussy at night lately. She has always woken every 2 hours or so to nurse, but it didn't bug the others when she was quiet about it! She has been super gassy at night and maybe teething again too, so not much sleep is being gotten and I have had to actually ask my hubby to take her at night for a couple hours a couple times in the past month or so, just so I could get a little stretch of sleep. He complains that if he loses sleep because of my decision to continue breastfeeding her, I am doing him harm, and that he shouldn't have to do that because it's my decision and he would prefer that I would wean her, or at least night-wean her. I have to remember to remind him that night-weaning our elder did NOT make her sleep through the night (she often still doesn't at age 4).
Anyway, I basically wonder if there's a good SHORT (haha) article I could ask him to read that will explain that breastfeeding is important for as long as they do it, not just when they're newborn (he pressured me to wean our older daughter at age 2, which I did, but I plan to not succumb to any such pressure this time around). Or am I being unreasonable? Perhaps I do need to consider night-weaning her or at least changing our sleeping arrangements (I've told him we can move the girls on the queen to the other bedroom, but I let him know that likely it will essentially be that I sleep there and he sleeps alone!). For night-weaning, I waited until our first was 21 months old and it still felt like she wasn't ready. I've considered doing Jay Gordon's method and continuing to co-sleep all together, but I won't be trying that for at least another month as I have a workshop in mid-November that means I'll be gone 11 hours for 4 days in a row, so if she can't nurse in the daytime, I don't want her to be already night-weaned or to confuse her by going "back and forth."
Forgot to add: last night when I asked him to take her for a bit so I could get a 2-hour stretch of sleep, he said he'd do half an hour, but if I promised to wean her he might do longer. I said no, I wasn't going to promise to wean her. I was quite hurt by that. Obviously we have bigger problems than pressure to wean, but I'm trying to work on all of it and just thought this would be a good place to ask about the nursing aspect!
Another edit (sorry): Just had a very quick talk with him about it, though he was running off to work, and discovered that his reasoning is that if I night-wean her, even if I ask him for more night-time help after that, at least it will be as easy for him as it is for me to put her to sleep, because she won't expect to nurse. Any thoughts on that? Perhaps he's right? What I immediately wanted to say is that it won't make it easier for him, just harder for me, but on the other hand perhaps he's right in that if she's not expecting it, she won't cry for it (maybe?).