Hi I wan't sure if I should post in the toddler section or in the weaning section so if this needs to be moved, I am sorry!
I have 2.5 year old son who was weaned this past July at 28 months old. Weaning was a really smooth transition; we slowly decreased nursing naturally and then when we went on a 2 week vacation at the beginning of the summer he would fall asleep exhausted most nights and so nursing just naturally stopped.
Everything went fine for the next two months after weaning until sometime in late August when all of a sudden he became totally boob obsessed. He never asks to nurse but he CONSTANTLY tries to touch my boobs. If he hugs me he bounces his face against them. If I pick him up he tries to run his hand across them and if I don't catch his hand quick enough he will pinch my nipple. He tries to put his mouth on them if I pick him up sometimes too. He asks me for a "hug" about 50 times a day (I am not exaggerating at all.. maybe underestimating!) and every single time I give him a hug he tries to pinch my boobs or nipples. I can't even just sit on the couch without him coming over and trying to sneak a grab.
I know this doesn't seem like a huge deal but it has gotten so bad that I cringe when he asks for a hug or asks me to hold him. I realize that sounds extreme but it is absolutely constant. No more than 5 or 10 minutes go by throughout the day where I don't feel like I am defending my boobs from poking and prodding. It is making me feel violated almost because it is so unwanted. This morning I cried out of just sheer frustration with the whole situation.
I have tried ignoring it and it gets way worse, almost like he feels he has permission if I ignore it. I have tried just talking to him about it, about how mommy doesn't really like to have her boobs pinched or whatever but the only thing that changed is that now when he is doing it he says "me not touching your boobs" even though he blatantly is. He also does that toddler thing where they look at you sideways while doing something to gauge your reaction so I know that he realizes that it is something I am not okay with. I even tried time-out one time even though that isn't a strategy I usually use but I just felt so angry at the moment and didn't know what else to do.
I know this is very long-winded but it is just something I really want to fix! I feel so sad that when my little boy wants a hug or to be held that I cringe inside. I just want to be able to hold him or play with him without feeling violated!
Any suggestions or just sympathy is greatly appreciated!!