Re: Boob-Obsessed Toddler
Ugh, that would drive me nuts. I totally understand why you feel so violated.
I hope it's reassuring to you that this sort of thing is normal. Kids who were nursed- and even those who weren't!- often use the breast as a transitional object, like some kids use a blanky or stuffed animal. Any time they're feeling uncertain, or overstimulated, sad, emotional, etc., they make a grab for that transitional object. Even much older kids will sometimes bury their heads against mom's "pillows" when they're tired or sad.
Now, IMO a gentle touch is okay and it's a good idea to put up with the more gentle expressions of your child's love for your breasts. The grabbing and pinching- not so much! So, dealing with that... My first thought is that your LO won't be able to pinch your nipple if he can't find it. So I'd pick a bra and a shirt that is good at keeping your nipples hidden. There are probably products on the market that would be good for preventing your nips from looking too sticky-outy. I would also make a blanket prohibition on pinching and grabbing. Any rough touching means that you stand up and walk away, while explaining that rough touching hurts mommy and you will come back when he promises not to pinch/grab. And I don't think you should feel bad about time-outs for pinching, if that's a technique you sometimes need to use.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"