I need to nightwean my 10 MO. This is my second child. Both EBF. My first was also an all night nurser and I nightweaned with Dr. Jay Gordon's method at about 15 months, and continued nursing until she was 2.5 years old. When I became about 20 weeks pregnant with our second child my milk dried up and so the nursing ended, trauma free.
This is different. I am severely sleep deprived. My LO also nurses all night long. We bedshare, all of us in the bed including my toddler. The LO starts off the night in the crib, will sometimes sleep a 2 hour stretch. If she wakes and I am awake I nurse her back into the crib. If she wakes and I am in bed I take her in the bed with me and there she stays. My first child did the same, but I didn't have another child to take care of during the day and my husband worked less hours. Now he is gone all day. He leaves at 7:30 AM and returns at 9:30 PM on average. Sometimes later.
My marriage is suffering. I cannot keep up during the day and by the time he gets home at night I cannot even hold a conversation. We are not connecting at all because he resents me for pressuring him and I resent him for not being here. I am also about to go back to work part time because we are broke. Something has to give here.
What I am worried about is that my LO barely nurses during the day. I think she is reverse cycling. She does a little but not much. She is much more into solids than my older daughter was. She eats a lot and is very nosey and distracted during nursing. She used to take a bottle when she was younger but now doesn't at all. I tried giving her breastmilk in a cup but she doesn't know what to do with it. I am worried that she isn't going to get enough if I nightwean.
I am at a total loss and don't know what to do. I have overcome so many obstacles when it comes to nursing and was always able to push through, despite how difficult it was. With my first we had all kinds of latching problems, inefficient suck, I was finger and tube feeding in the middle of the night, then pumping, and getting minimal sleep. Blah blah the list goes on. I love nursing and am a fierce advocate but something has to give here.