Hi mamas -
I posted on here a couple months ago about my daughter's disinterest in nursing and my concern that she was weaning. It's been two months and we're still hobbling along. And I mean hobbling! I am again an anxious mess.
One piece of advice the savvy ladies on here gave me two months ago was to RELAX, that our nursing relationship was merely changing. So I stopped freaking out every time she didn't want to feed, stopped reaching for the pump to replace feedings, etc. And now I wonder if I shouldn't have relaxed SO much...
My daughter is now 1 year old and she's nursing for 2-3 minutes about 5 times a day. Is that enough??? It's all I can get from her.
Sometimes before nap or bed she'll comfort nurse for longer but it really feels like she's just using me as a pacifier and not actually drinking anything. Eventually I will just take her off when my back/neck starts to hurt.
I think there is NO WAY she's extracting 16-20 oz or so for the day. But since I am technically still nursing her I have not offered other milks, formula or any sort of supplement. She's not very interested in solids either, taking some breakfast but basically tasting lunch and dinner and then throwing it on the floor.
I have a baby who has been so hard to nurse from Day 1 due to disinterest and subtle or nonexistent cues and my problem with plugged ducts I feel like I won't know when she IS weaning and I will be depriving her of much-needed liquids and nutrition. This is a very uncomfortable feeling as a mama, as you all know.
I could start doing pre and post nursing weight checks as with a newborn... it just seems so crazy. I thought this would be getting easier...
Thanks in advance for your hard won advice!