Hello ladies I will try to make this short. I am nursing my 23 month old and have been feeling the past few months I want to be done. She has other plans. We have always nursed on demand since birth and I have never put any limits on nursing or ever refused her, which is I think most of my problem.
She nurses ALOT still. Probably 10 times during the day and at least 3 times over night, usually more. We bed share. She has never fallen asleep without nursing to sleep. She has no nursing manners. She twiddles my other nipple constantly and will scream bloody murder if I try to--gently--redirect her to a toy or holding/kissing her hand. Although she is nearly 2 she is a little behind on development and doesn't really talk much at all. I don't think she understands when I tell her "we can't nurse right now" or "I'll nurse you in a few minutes" she just throws a tantrum until I give in.
Now let me say, I work 3 days per week and I work 14 hr shifts. When I'm gone she's with my husband and obviously doesn't nurse then, I don't pump anymore so she goes all day (5:45am-7:45pm) without nursing or breastmilk. So I know she can do it. I guess it's out of sight out of mind kinda thing. Anyway, I'm getting a little worn out and her nursing constantly and poor nursing behavior and me having not slept through the night once since she's been born is really taking it's toll on me.
Now let's complicate things--I just found out I'm pregnant. I have absolutely no desire to tandem nurse. I think it's great that people do, it's just not for me. I am desperate to wean her before the new baby comes. I know if she continues to nurse through my pregnancy, that she will resent the new baby needing to nurse constantly and won't understand that the new baby's nursing comes before hers. I mean she nurses almost as much as a newborn does still! I'm afraid I won't be able to get her to wean by the time I give birth.
I've been trying recently to cut back on nursing her esp. during the day, destracting her with other things or just gently explaining we can't nurse right now and she just absolutely loses it. I can't take it so I just give in. I seroiusly need help ladies. I don't know what to do with this child. :-(
I've been thinking about putting her in her own room / bed but I wonder if that would just make things worse. My midwife suggested me sleeping in another room for a few nights and have daddy do bedtime but like I said she has never once fallen asleep without nursing so I don't know about that. I want to do this gently but I don't know if that's gonna cut it. I would hate for this to be a traumatic experience for her. :-( Please help!!