Re: Desperately need help... completely at a loss.
Welcome to the forum!
The first thing I have to say is, wow, what a struggle you have had so far!!! There are a lot of factors in your story that explain why you've had a hard time- bad hospital experience, terrible LC (unfortunately, a lot of hospital LCs are just nurses who have taken a short course, not real lactation professionals), retained placenta, lip and tongue ties, sabotage from your spouse, a frustrated baby, mastitis... The good news, I guess, is that at this point a lot of that bad stuff is behind you!
In your shoes, here's what I would do:
1. Call your local LCs and IBCLCs. Explain your situation, including your lack of funds, and ask if you can either get some pro bono help or negotiate a spread-out fee- e.g. you pay $5 a month for as long as it takes.
2. If the LC/IBCLC angle doesn't pan out, call WIC. They often have breastfeeding counselors who may be able to help you or at least point you in the right direction for getting help.
3. Contact your local LLLi again. Leaders tend to be busy mamas who are often just as overwhelmed as any other woman, and sometimes a call gets missed.
4. Call your local dentists and pediatric dentists. They may be more comfortable with releasing tongue/lip ties than the hospital folks. (In fact, I just had my 7 year-old in to the dentist and he thinks she may have to have her lingual frenum cut- and he treated it like it was absolutely casual.)
5. Review your contraception choices. If you're using a form of hormonal contraception, it could be negatively impacting your supply. There is good anecdotal evidence that even "safe for breastfeeding" hormonal contraceptives can have negative impacts for some women.
6. Review your pumping set-up. Make sure your pump is a good double electric and that you have correctly sized shields.
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