So this is going to be really long. I'm at my wit's end, desperate for help. I've contacted LLL here and didn't get any replies. I can't afford any IBCLC LC's, and the hospital LCs won't help me.
I have a 4 month old son who I'm trying so hard to EBF.
He has a lip tie and a tongue tie but our hospital (the only one that accepts tricare) won't cut them until he's 6 months old, and when I told them we have a hard time nursing they said "just switch to formula. It's not a big deal."
After he was born he was taken from me for the first hour without my consent, and when he was returned to me, he wouldn't nurse. The Hospital LCs told me that he wouldn't nurse for a few days and that was normal. And then they shoved him on my breast and walked awya and wouldn't help me any more.
I went home, I struggled, but I kept up the best I could, despite a shallow latch, and the fact that his lips tucked in when he nursed. His lips actually blistered. They're still blistered... or really, calloused, now.
A month postpartum I was still struggling, and ended up hospitalized for mastitis and retained placenta, with a fever of 104.3. I had a DnC, my supply ended up dropping dramatically, and that's when the screaming started. Every time I put him to breast he'd fight and scream and absolutely just freak out. My husband started giving him bottles, not being supportive. Not only that, but fast flow bottles. So of course, my son got even more frustrated at the breast.
I started fighting to get my supply back up, to keep him latching, but it was just a constant battle. My supply dropped so steeply he would get dehydrated, even though I was constantly pumping, taking supplements, everything.
When things started lookig up I got thrush, the thrush is now ductal, and the doctors won't believe me. I'm battling off mastitis, caused by the thrush, I assume.
And suddenly, he just started refusing the breast today. Screaming bloody murder. Even with an SNS. I'm at such a loss, I'm trying so hard, and nothing is working.
I'm at my wit's end and so desperate.