I am a concerned dad with a situation spiraling downhill.
The short story: our otherwise healthy (2 month old) son has recently begun feeding super frequently (every 45 to 90 minutes, three hours if we’re lucky) We have read many articles on this forum about how babies are supposed to feed frequently, and we agree about the benefits, but the lack of sleep is taking an unhealthy toll on my wife, who is trying to soldier this out for the sake of exclusively using breastmilk. As her fatigue mounts, it affects the let-down, which causes him to be more aggressive on the nipple, which decreases her relaxed-ness, which further affects the let-down, and so on, and so forth.
We do pump, and have just enough that I take on a few of the in-between feedings, and on the weekends I cover some of the night feedings to allow her to sleep longer stretches. I have taken a few days off, but I work full time, so I cannot offer the kind of support we would need to sustain this feed frequency for much longer.
We are very close to the end of this rope, and are not in search of encouragement. If we hit that wall, we need the next best thing, or something that can bring us some relief and allow us to get back into it later if at all possible? We didn’t get this far being pansies about it, and won’t take kindly to such a suggestion.
Little fella is super happy when he’s awake, not acting over-tired, and fairly easy to calm down. By our measure, he appears to be getting everything that HE needs, but my wife is suffering, and can’t keep this up –and when my wife suffers, we all suffer.
Background: Our son (two months old) was born at 40 weeks at a healthy weight 6lbs 2oz, no issues, and took to breastfeeding immediately. His latch was suspect from the beginning; the lactation consultants at the hospital thought that his latch looked fine from the outside, but all agreed that the shape of the nipple was not good when he let go. Things have been getting better, he has continued to gain weight successfully, and we have been switching feeding positions to save my wife’s nipples.
The kid slept great when we brought him home, and fed regularly, slept frequently during the day and for four hour stretches (average) during the night time. Those stretches have recently decreased dramatically, and he feeds in between every nap. At this point, his daytime cycle is simple: nap, feed, awake-time, nap. Sometimes it’s nap, feed, awake-time, feed, nap. His nighttime cycle is simply nap,feed,nap.
We do an at-home weigh-in each week, but I can’t recall all of the results off the top. From birth, in lbs: 6.1, 6.8, 7.2, 9.6, 9.8, 10.5, 11.2 <<Sunday 2013 Sep 22
So what are we doing wrong?
What is the next step?