Hi Moms! I just wanted to offer a word of encouragement if you're really struggling to make it all work. I'll just tell you my experience over the last 11 weeks - no two are exactly the same and I'm not offering advice, just encouragement, by telling my little story to let you you know you can push through some frustrating stuff and eventually get your LO breastfeeding.
DD was born healthy at 7lb 5oz 11 1/2 weeks ago. Possibly the most wonderful experience of my life was watching her do the newborn crawl up to my breast and latch on, an experience I had not had with my other children. Wow! She latched and sucked, and I thought we had it made!
Over the next day, I got very sore, and it became apparent that she wasn't latching well at all and not opening her mouth very much. Over the week of her hospital stay (severe jaundice) she wasn't transferring at all from the breast (LC and I weighed her after feedings) and we supplemented with pumped milk. I tried every position, nipple shields, etc. Finally, my LC (who was and is excellent, btw!) said she was really stumped and that I might need to have DD evaluated for a posterior tongue tie. Also, since my nipples were quite large and her mouth quite small, it seemed she might need some time to grow just a bit.
I was frustrated! This was supposed to be my "easy baby" after having just had a very difficult one! I EPd 16 months for last last one and was sure this one would just latch and go! Every day, I offered the breast, supplemented with pumped milk, then pumped. Many of you know the routine. At about 4 weeks I ditched the nipple shield, because I figured she was going to have to get used to my nipple at some point anyway.
At 5 weeks she had a tongue tie release. At 6 and 7 weeks, she was still transferring less than half an ounce. We kept up the same offering, feeding, pumping routine. Some days I took a mental break and offered the breast only a few times, some days, many times.
And then slowly, she started to transfer! By 8 weeks, she was up to 1.5 ounces! Then 2, then 3.5! Yay!
At 11 1/2 weeks, she's been off all supplementation for 2 1/2 weeks. She's not a perfect latcher, but has improved immensely. Last week, after a poky couple weeks while she "got it," she gained 5 ounces. DD is happy to be at the breast, too.
I almost quit about a hundred times. I'd think, just a few more days and we're done. But we kept adding a few more days and a few more days and we did it! My LC told me she knew I could do it, and it helped so much to know that she believed in me even when I didn't.
I'm no expert - my LC knows her stuff way better than me - but I just wanted you to know that even after a couple months or more, you CAN get your baby on the breast. Be patient and try not to stress too much in the meantime. One of the main things that helped me is deciding not to let the frustration ruin my happy time with my DD. The days go by too quickly for that!